Life without possessiveness..

Possessive... this is just a word which has bombarded so many relations, when i think why some one should be possessive, the answer is insecurity feeling that which develops when u dont possess what u love or like. Possessiveness usually is common among the lovers, who dont want the loved one's to go away unattended, unheard or un spoken.. they want them always by their side and listen to whatever is being said.. but after a point the thin line of possissiness becomes thicker and the line swells, bulges and tightens like a rope around the neck , chocking the one who is possessed. Atlast it gives away and lets loose and damages the realtion in name of suspecion and unloyalty..
friends too are possessive among each other and closest of friends dont like any other s intruding and taking away their friend from him/her...this usually happens in school days where am sure everyone would have come past the same feelings, the close, closest and the dearmost friends is let loose when there is 3 rd person intervening among them, in the adolocent age, even that is digestable, what about the heart breaks when u are grown up ?
One such heart break was too bad when i realised it on my own.. hmm after all lyrics of sober songs and sad situvations in movies really prove a point... the sms s that are left unreplied, the calls that go unanswered and missed really does pain...that too when u see some one being rejected, misunderstood and picked upon just to end a relation really pains.. what ever is true yesterday is false today and will be wrong tomorrow...when u possess some one and see that person deattach and slip away from ur hands that too infornt of you..for unknown reasons or for the sake of that intruder,it really destructs all the dreams, good times that were spent and happy moments that were shared with all intimacy and emotions goes pointless when the latter truns around and throws tantrums that too for reason that hurts!
people whom when loved, shared all happiness and sorrow together should understand the feelings emotions and sacrifices before pointing the fingure and try to break up a relation just because they have found a closness to their longstanding 2nd fiddle..